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The Yoniverse pt 2 by Keith Gregory

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  FRIDAY, MARCH 29, 2013 The Yoniverse pt 2 Have you ever wondered what it's ...

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  From: http://awakenthesacred.blogspot.comWEDNESDAY, MARCH 27, 2013 Huge. Fat...

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The Anatomy of Sex Addiction

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Tantric secrets, empowering and enabling you to enhance your relationships, will result in becoming soul-mates with your love partner, experiencing ecstatic bliss in everyday life and transforming intimacy into a truly transcendent experience. 

The people I work with may be happy in life desiring to enhance all their connections. Some are great in the boardroom, yet bored in the bedroom.

A lot are struggling to maintain long-term, intimate or professional relationships. When people have been together a long time, they may take the other for granted. Others experience stress, health problems, or emotional pain due to addictions, abuse or affairs.

Here are some practices that will emphasis making love, not war, It will also affect all your relationships. You can also dedicate it, sex magic, to achieving your personal goals, or even world peace.

Make love in a way you always wanted to and dream about but never dared to act upon. Have an affair with your beloved. The best time to make love is either in the morning or lunch time, women are more likely to be aroused then. Many affairs happen during lunch time. Last thing at night is the worst time to make love as you are tiered, having done all the house chores and you need to get up early. Please remember that waiting for the prince on the white horse to whisk you away or read your mind is from a fairy tales, and fairy tale are just that, reality could be and is far more exciting.

These practices are suggestions that have been tested throughout the ages, some from ancient tantric practices and they will elevate your relationship to a whole new level. Enjoy the magic. It is rather simple, if you do them you will benefit. It is like following a recipe making bread or cake, if you miss out an ingredient the magic is missing.

Take your time, in tantric practices each sexual meditation lasts at least an hour. A woman needs at least 32 – 37 minutes preparation for arousal, her energy system and endorphin will work form the extremities, hands, neck feet towards the core of her being. So her genitals are to be touched after her whole body is zinging electrified and she is having multiple orgasms before penetration. Around 42-47 minutes both partners energy bodies are tuned in, sex is no longer an act of friction sex, like in the porn movies pumping away. But rather it is an electro-magnetic charged confection, this are scientifically proven researched, we are in an age where science is now confirming the benefits to health of ancient tantric practices such as the Karrezza, a non-doing love making where you are connected for at least 47 minutes and relaxing at the same time.
There are many myths, that we still hold onto even in our enlightened and open minded sexually free age, Myths such as men are ready to engage in sexual activity anytime. The blue balls myth, there is no such thing, and a man who reabsorbs their seaman will actuality improve their physical well-being, rejuvenate and become attractive with that “ je ne sais quoi” quality.

This is the yoga of relationship and sexuality is the fuel and “cement” making sure your relation-ship sales smoothly rather then turn into relation-shit. In long term relationships we tend to take each other for granted. Make effort and you will keep the fire of passion which will in turn keep the fire of love. Making love it the expression and it is so, sex is a derivation of division form Latin, the choice is in your hands…
First set the scene: “Namaste”, Honor your beloved with a deep Namaste, Saluting the divinity within your love partner. Bowing down your head, even bowing deep down that you may reach their feet with your head on their feet. Kiss each foot taking grate care and ceremony stay there fro a moment then look up from the floor and enjoy the magic. This may touch their heart center and may also result in tears of joy and deep gratitude. 

1. Looking, Licking

Take your time to honor each other, as if you are divine god/goddess.

Look at a limb or the genitals, take your time to describe what magical scene you are looking at, the skin color, for 10 minutes.

Stroke this part of the body, with devotion, as if though it is the most precious artifact  for at least 10 minutes.

Lick it, taste the texture and its unique flavors.

This will also create healing as we tend to store trauma, abuse and shaming in the body.

2. Bathing ritual:

Bath the feet of your beloved. Use warm oil, drizzle with couple of drops of essential oils of your choice, sprinkle flour petals into the bath or the bowl.

Take care washing each limb, as if you are touching the body of a god or a goddess, the most precious and fragile you are holding in your hands.

3. Painting

Use a finger, or a paint brush, even eatable chocolate, tiramisu or yogurt, whatever you fancy, to paint, draw or write on the body.

4. Stories

Tell each other your wildest dreams and fantasies. These are great in the realm of fantasies, yet they will enhance your love making and sexual appetite.

Make love whilst talking allow yourselves to talk unedited, whatever comes to your head, speak it. Play with fantasies, sing, lough, the louder you scream, the more energy you bring, Make animal noises. Tell each other what you are doing, describe in details what you feel during making love.

5. Energy sex

Sit opposite each other at a small distance, imagine your energy centers, chakras, are making love, as if though you have genitals on your chakras, the forehead, the throat, heart, solar plexus, belly and genitals. Even your crown chakra at the top of your head, Allow yourselves to move, make noises as if you are really making love, fake it till you make it. The full version will be available on Hanna’s new guided meditation cd.

6. Singing

Make love while you sing a song that is meaningful to you, sexy, or devotional, sacred mantras or prayers, the more holy and sacred the song/chant, the more passion you will bring. Do not stop singing while the orgasms lap at the shores of your being.

7. In the Realm of the senses

Surprise your beloved, when they come home, make them a feast to the taste buds, exquisite smells and the most divine is the smell of your own genitals and sweet which really ignites their passion, fine silks and fur for touch, to awaken every pore in their body. Sounds you can play over their body, whisper to the body, telling them, how much you value them what you are planning to do to them. Oh, and did I not mention, you greet them at the door, and blind fold them, guiding them to the place where you have prepared all this. Spontaneity takes a lot of planning…

8. Oil sleek

Make sure you have lots of towel, or old sheets, maybe a waterproof bedding under. Take a huge tube of Coconut oil or other oil o your choice, apply generously to them and yourself and slide. Use your body as a body slide, use your neck to massage their body, your upper arms, your belly and chest.



9. 3 times self:

Self-honouring, self-pleasuring or “enlightened masturbation”:

Pleasuring yourself, while you show your beloved, easier to do with your eyes covered with blind fold to start with. Take turns, you are teaching them how you love to be pleasured. At the same time you are giving them permission to really look, most people sneak a peek, steeling a moment when they think the other may not notice. We have a fascination about the body and most of us were not allowed to indulge in healthy exploration with others and this practice may have been curtailed at an early age, if our carers did not feel comfortable with their own sexuality.

You are the expert on your own body, or can learn to be. The word fascination is a derivation from a Latin word “fascinum” or “Phallus”, these were 239 tiny penises arranged on a necklace used as a charm similar to the Hamsa, to protect solders and young women in Ancient Roman times.

10. Royal Liberation

Choose which partner will be The Royal highness, Queen or King. Make sure this is NOT a master slave game. They have a birth right to ask for what they truly desire, from licking the clitoris on the left side at 2 o’clock point for an hour to having poetry read whilst having their head stroked. They have every right to express their desires. The royal consort, a highly revered partner companion of the  king/queen, will endeavor to deliver the RH desires. The game is over when the Royal highness feels satiated and complete for today. Make sure to book in the diary the next appointment for the other Royal highness.

This works on many levels, learning to communicate honestly, asking for what you truly desire and teaching the partner about you as you discover more about yourself. It also works on subtle levels of re wiring your neurology, where you are allowing yourself to enjoy receiving and coming from a place of abundance and ease with yourself rather than scarcity or fight and flight primitive brain reaction. T also works on the spiritual question of “what is the nature of desire”? And “who is the one that desires”? And the realization through direct experience of unity through sexual union. The name of God is shouted with more passion and sincerity in the bedroom then in any church or synagogue that I have ever been in.



Happy and blissful endings:

My advice is to hold nothing back, have fun see how much pleasure you can contain and allow yourself to have, we take ourselves way too seriously, and yet at the same time sexuality is the basis of our civilization, it is also the creative force and our vital live force energy, the Chi or Kundalini.

The clitoris has more the 20,000 nerve endings and its’ sole (the joy of the soul) purpose is pleasure. The frenulum has between 3,700 – more than 20,000 nerve endings. Men have the male G-spot they are not even aware about, it is a secret and a cosmic sense of humor, it is their prostate gland in the gateway to heaven…Also men can have multiple orgasms. When you empower humanity to enjoy true freedom of sexuality, the churches, the Vatican can no longer control them, yet they engage I sexual activity which is transgressive in nature. When the church suppresses sexuality and forbids its clergy from engaging in sex, actuality makes it more alluring, and of course, what we forbid and resist becomes more persistent, resulting in abuse.

Sexuality is “Adult play”. It is the way through to realize unity and feel healthy, vibrancy, vitality and much more. Adult Play has purpose is for the sheer pleasure and cultivation of well-being and bonding.

Here are the 7 Rs of sex:

The first three we share with the animal kingdom:

1.       Reproduction

2.       Relaxation

3.       Recuperation

The next two we share only with the Bonobos and Dolphins as far as we are aware

4.       Relational

5.       Recreational (the lifestyle)

The last two we are the only ones as far as we are aware that engage in sexual union for the purpose of:

6.       Religious (tantra, Mitzva in the Kabala)

7.       Realization & Remembrance (self-actualization or attaining a state of bliss)

So this is it, this is your life happening right now, what are you waiting for?

Enjoy the magic.

Namaste 

Hanna Tantra

Copyright 2013 Hanna Katz-Jelfs

Tantric Lovers book http://tantricloversbook.com/ &  http://hannatantra.com/

Article . Copyright 2013 Hanna Katz-Jelfs

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KeithGreg  FRIDAY, MARCH 29, 2013

The Yoniverse pt 2

Have you ever wondered what it's like to be a man in these times, trying to get our baring amidst the spin, swirl and confusion of modern life? Without a Brotherhood to rely on to lend encouragement and support, most often stuck in our old paradigm beliefs and behaviors, we are searching for direction without hardly a roadmap… except of course, what’s readily available in all of us – our Hearts. And for us all, herein lives our salvation, don’t you know.

This is the grand conundrum for us men. How can a man get into his Heartspace without feeling the backlog of emotions he’s never allowed himself to really access, let alone feel - and if that doesn’t discourage him beyond all possibility of hope, to actually transform and heal the deep wounds we feel?
Alas, we can’t. With so much held in our Bank Of Mistrust, like forgotten accounts that have only compounded from our disinterest, we are most often overwhelmed by the accumulated sums accrued. The enormity of what we haven’t allowed ourselves to feel and in turn clear and release, is why there is so much conflict within ourselves and in the world at large.

The irony for men is the answer lives much closer – and deeper than we think. (Pun intended.) No, not from the masculine parts we’ve come to associate and identify with all these lifetimes but from the other side of the tracks, ie. the opposite half of our Whole self. For most men this locale is the run down section of town, long ignored anddisregarded and yet, here lives our solace and liberation.

It’s in the feminine force and consciousness within where we will learn to identify, face and in time, embrace to transform the immensity of emotional baggage we've been holding on to or rather, that’s been holding onto us for about as long as we can possibly remember. Here lives all these wonders – and more, all contained in your own personal Yoniverse, living in you.

To get here just takes getting really present in our bodies and alive in our Heartspace. Sounds easy but not so for most men. On the whole, women have such an easier time of this than we do. By virtue of having a menstruation cycle that biologically defines you as women, it roots you in your bodies in, from what I’ve observed all my adult life, a way that men haven’t a clue. By virtue of you having to feel the internal hormonal currents moving so strongly through and flowing out of you on a regular basis (this alone already sounds way too intense), gives you an intimate and visceral understanding of what being present in your bodies is all about.

We on the other hand, are experts in not feeling our feelings. We’ve largely directed our energies towards external pursuits, endeavoring to define ourselves primarily by what we do and accomplish out in the world. Does this accurately characterize, in general so far, the masculine mass consciousness archetype, for good or worse? It certainly isn't the most exalted expression of what we’re capable of - yet -  but it’s what we have to work from. Sorry to take so long ...

As a fairly well balanced guy, having trained at length with strong, conscious women teachers and healing mentors, over time developing my intuitive gifts and awareness of my feminine nature, I always have to keep checking in just to keep the communication channels open. It’s like the more I know, the more I have to do just to stay even. The down side is, no longer can I disregard my feelings just because they feel ‘bad’ though I genuinely miss the moments when I could. My addiction self just Loved those daze.

Ignorance may be bliss to some, though currently on the planet, prolonged ignorance will get you left behind. It feels like the boat is slowly pulling away from the dock, with the distance widening more and more from shore. To miss this passage would be a real bummer. However you calculate the timelines involved, we’re talking about hugely significant lengths of time. Massive, in fact. In this respect, who knows when the next shuttle service will come around offering such acceleration in our Soul’s development.

From whatever I’ve been able to gleam from the ongoing downloads and intuitive insightful hits these Turning Of The Ages times are all about, is that yes, something all together new is touching our Earth. Whether unprecedented as they say, it is a whole new ballgame starting up. The pitching is live with real hard balls thrown yet the good news is, we all have our chance to take our swings.

It really is a big time deal, what’s going on now. For all of us to shift more smoothly to accommodate the incoming Juice, we'll have to tap into our abilities to let go of whatever constricts us, on every level, all to keep expanding to hold more Light/Lifeforce flooding in. I've come to believe all our various pains, issues, wounds and hurtful reactions, long held in private reserve, will have to transform and lighten considerably for us to continue moving along if not keep living, period.

However you define the more ‘feminine qualities’ in women and men alike - those associated with receptivity, compassion, nurturance, humility and forgiveness, all come to mind. Each one of these is a doorway we can heal through. These energies in fact, are the magic and alchemical elixirs that can support and allow a man to enter into the catacombs of his sealed emotional body. To mine the ground where our Hearts have been buried, we will have to do this excavation work for ourselves. In this as always, we have to do it for ourselves but we can't do it alone.

Without accessing our feelings, we cannot evolve. Without doing the self-healing required, we will remain stuck in our old shit. The warehouses’ full of what we haven’t emotionally attended to only prevent us moving forward because the weight of the unresolved won’t permit it. 

To graduate from Earth School and get our diplomas, the price of admission to the holy grounds are all the reflections and expressions of our ego’s woundedness and pain body’s chronic aches and pains. Like the old Egyptian's god who weighted your heart to that of a feather upon your passing, if the heft of our suffering counted more, back to Earth we went. I don't know about you but for me, over and over again.

Having recently plunged into my emotionality resulting from a recent breakup, this has suddenly quirked up yet another vista view visit into places I’d much rather not be. Oh well, upon this we can all depend - the Yoniverse conspires to force us to our destiny. I recently read that relationship is not meant for happiness but transformation. Great. And it comes at such a good time too ...

What began allowing me to move into the outer layers of my core wounds was in finding that my feelings won’t kill me but my resistance, fear and resulting anger surely will. In all stories of Awakening, that each and every one of us share, is eventually ending up where the only possible choice left is to get real present, surrender, let go and turn it all over to God/Goddess or Whatever you hold most dear.

You just gotta get out of the way. Bottom line. This capability, however, doesn’t normally live in the land of the virile, valiant and manly brave. This is more a female thing. The ability to not always resist has its pluses, really across the board on all levels of our being. To go with the flow - so clichéd out and so totally crucial, especially during a time of Awakening when a never before unreleased heightened strain of Light is being set into our individual, collective and planetary grid systems.

That I should envision the Goddess Void holding us all is my personal preference, present and alive in the amniotic fluid of her Yoniverse. In the unknowability of this Eternal Reality, lives all imaginable possibility. Here the exponential potential ever simmers away … how can I conceivably convey what it’s taken as a man to even begin to grok this concept? I can testify, it’s not been from my masculine ego's perspective, that’s for sure.

I can also attest, it hasn’t been much fun at all learning of this. The saying ‘the bigger they come, the harder they fall’ had my ego in mind when written. Ask most any guy who has an inkling of what I’m talking about, who himself has been through his hell realms, his Dark Nights of His Soul passages to rebirth and emerge out fairly unscathed - speaking of which, I sure wish I knew more of us!
If you yourself are one or know of any, please contact me. Thank you so much.

What this has taught me is it’s in my vulnerability I find my strength. No, not in the sense of my personality’s ability to handle a situation and then wimp out but from an openness born from being more Heart centered. This is the Yoniverse effect. The dance between holding on to direct a situation and letting go to have it move from a higher hand is such an art. It's the art of living Awake.
… to be continued … 

PS If you felt moved, inspired, touched, supported, annoyed, or anything else after reading this post, please let me know. I really do appreciate your comments and feedback. It’s easy and only takes a minute.  Click on 'comments' or 'no comments' below. Also, if you feel inspired to share this with another, please do so!

Thank You.

KeithGreg 
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WEDNESDAY, MARCH 27, 2013

Huge. Fathomless. Unknowable and a complete mystery, through and through. Ask most any guy and he’ll tell you he’s been trying to solve this conundrum all his life. I know I have. And it’s not just a sexual thing, either. It’s a mystery because there’s never a solve involved – for us men, it’s an ongoing inquiry into the part within ourselves this relates to and reflects. Oh my golly, our very own feminine nature.
Regardless of being born into a masculine functioning form, designed and constructed to be able to perform certain functions and operate in specific ways, are we as Spirits first and foremost, inherently either male or female – and as Spirits, when entering this life, born into a boy’s body upon birth, are we only that, a man in the making?
I don’t think so. With so many of the traditional gender boundary markers being destroyed, transformed and redesigned these days, steadily picking up momentum especially since the advent of the birth control pill way back when, men have been more or less clueless as to which role we are now to play. Or perhaps perform is more accurate.

We just Love tasks. It gives us something to do that taps into our whole ‘live with a purpose’ thing. We often need a direction in mind and a goal in sight that gives us a sense of endeavoring in our lives. It’s been said, first and foremost, the masculine Lifeforce is predominantly guided to fulfill our purposeful function in life. As in ‘doing the do’ – however this happens to look like at the time. We're the more action oriented force of the mix.
As we’ve come to realize, the masculine/feminine archetypal Lifeforce is certainly not gender specific. Not at all. As humans, we have a unique combination of both qualities built into our hard drives, with our individual interpretations adding to the elaborate and often colorful mix. Just walk down 6th Ave in the village, here in NYC on any Saturday night and you'll see a full array of humanity openly on display.
The irony in the gender struggles, with both sexes in an accelerated free fall into unknown territory, is both sexes ultimately win. The swing of the evolutionary arch is now inviting anyone who chooses to look between the extremes or apparent opposites to find the common resting place within us all. And it's in our Hearts, don’t you know? Only here can we truly come together, unifying in commonality without definition or distinction. It's in our Heartspace the myriad differences are no longer readily evident and only here can we meet together in the Sacred within our common Self. Yes after all boys and girls, Home is in the Heart.
A friend and once teacher of mine (thank you David Cates) shared the notion that men actually have wombs as well, energetically speaking. That contained within our male matrix is the template of this feminine core, creatrix force. While working and training together, he would guide me into this energy field, accessing the feminine current inherently contained in my lower belly. I came to call this tapping into my ‘belly wisdom.’
As an empathic shape-shifter, this was fairly easy for me to do. It allowed me to get in touch with a very different consciousness flow of ‘Keith’ - one that had very different qualities, perspectives and characteristics than I was used to. It was subtle sensing at first though quickly turned into an ongoing meet-and-greet, like an intimate networking event all contained inside me. 'Hello and how are you? This is my male me. It’s so nice to finally meet you, my inner feminine nature …'
Over the years, I’ve come to disinvest in what this all possibly means needing less and less reasons why to satisfy my curiosity and understanding. In time, I’ve become very comfortable interacting with these complimentary parts of Keith. The ongoing discovery has certainly been rich enough. The way my mind functions has become less linear, more cyclical if not holographic in perception and as a result, my internal viewfinder has expanded to include a much larger field of vision.
My intuition has greatly developed and my ability to feel deeply has also increased. I believe this is a direct result of opening up to my innate, feminine consciousness and inviting this aspect of me to express itself more and more. I have been well fed with all she provides.
However, accessing this feminine element has also proven challenging as well. Never having had much of a hint as to how to ‘act like a man’ and being very resistant and reluctant to follow in the prestepped footprints of my father and other male role models of my youth, it’s been yet another paradigm dispelled  before my very eyes …And yet, when it comes right down to it - no matter what, we all have to define ourselves for ourselves anyway. As always, this can get complicated but hey, it's the times in which we live.
Out of confusion comes either chaos – or breakthrough. Often it seems to require the chaos part to push us forward, forcing our hands to embrace a whole new way of seeing ourselves and living our lives. These times, called The Turning Of The Ages, surely speak to this phenomena where the signpost markers are all betwixed and between – where up is over, in is below and most don’t have any frickin’ idea as to how to act and what to do. This goes for women and men alike.

In keeping with the saying  – Learn to fly when you’re falling, I’ve found the only way to navigate safely through my Yoniverse is by being persistently present in the sanctuary of my Heartspace. This has become my only safe haven in the storm. What does this mean for us men you ask - and how possibly will the majority of us guys evolve to not only recognize the complimentary aspects of our selves, but come to Love, embrace and actualize what this can look like in a man?
Who knows!? We're all figuring it out as we go. It’s a wacky world out here, with such a inter- dimensional Felliniesque quality to life these daze. It’s not that just the strong will survive; rather the most Heart conscious of all will keep rising to the surface and flowing along with the currents moving through the planet now. In order for humanity to survive let alone evolve, the masculine and feminine dynamic within us all will have to progress and develop and become completely interdependent… and you ladies thought you had it all rigged just because you have a yoni of your own.
... to be continued ... pt 2 to follow ...
lisa   Lisa Carrillo is a coach and creator of the Loving Your Love Life Approach, a method which uses specific tools (including mastering clitoral stroking) to help couples and singles enjoy sex more through techniques that increase sensitivity and bring their bodies into greater resonance.

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It was like an orgasm times 100. I thought I might die. In years of kink writing, I'd never felt anything so scary
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KeithGreg   We live in incredibly powerful times as we sit in the mythical 2012 gateway. More and more people today are looking around and observing the world in increasing degrees of chaos, perhaps believing we very well may be approaching the infamous 'End Times.' Many ancient cultures, specifically the Mayans, refer to these times as the long awaited Turning Of The Ages. Whatever your perspective or personal point of view, the world outlook at present is uncertain to say the very least.

Throughout history, this current decade has been prophesied as the pivotal period where humanity will either evolve into a higher state of being or even destroy itself or  ... what, who can possibly know? However you see our planet's potential for continued sustainability upon the foreseeable future time-lines, the necessary physical resources needed for our survival are dangerously close to collapse and for us humans, possible extinction. Clearly, something has to change.

All of humanity shares in this global predicament regardless of our gender, nationality, cultural backgrounds, economic status or religious affiliations. We all call Earth our home and like it or not, we are in this together. As planetary citizens alive at this time on Earth, we all have a choice in how we contribute to our collective fate. How we choose to show up in our lives, for ourselves, our relationships and in our communities will certainly tell the tale. Will we actively and consciously create not only workable solutions but rather become the very solution itself? In fact, are we even up to this enormous task? As Gandhi once said, simply put: "be the change you want to see in the world." From this perspective, our destiny does indeed rest in our own hands.

Stating the obvious, the world's governments themselves are certainly unable to create or sustain peace for any length of time, or for that matter, act in the long term good of their subjects. Historically speaking, this is not new or especially unusual. It appears that after all, the force of change and the collective fate of this planet will indeed depend on the individual, the common person, you and I. Without a doubt, these crucial times call for us all to take a much closer look at our personal and collective priorities. They require us to find highly creative solutions and to implement the necessary and effective changes that will make a real difference now.

They call for us all to explore a very different way of being human and out of necessity for us men, a very different way of being masculine. I believe the men in mankind are being called to radically evolve by renewing our higher purpose in life. We will do his by restoring honor, respect and integrity amongst ourselves. From this intention, Awakening The Sacred Masculine was born.  As we honestly observe the historical and traditional dynamics of power long held on this planet (and the attitudes and behaviors which created our present global situation), there is more than enough evidence reinforcing the belief that the old paradigm way those in power ruled, mostly men, has to evolve in order for us to continue living here on Earth.

This is not meant as a negative value judgment against men in general, rather an obvious conclusion. Just look at history. The masculine principle has been way out of balance for way too long now and it is clear we men today need a great deal of help, support and encouragement to effectively grow and evolve into our higher potential. Observing the world at large, I sincerely believe the need for Awakening The Sacred Masculine has never been greater than now, at The Turning Of The Ages.  Throughout recorded time, the misaligned masculine in power has been rooted in control, domination, judgment and persecution - of those who didn't conform, behave or submit to those in political, economic or military power - historically, primarily in the hands of men. Up until now, this has been the way of the world - might always makes right.

The resulting global crisis impacting our Earth today and all upon her, is accelerating dramatically on the most basic of humanistic, societal, economic and ecological levels. This progression is a direct result of the selfish, self-serving misuse and abuse of power over less advantaged human beings along with the Earth's essential resources. One way or another, sooner than later, it eventually comes down to money. Profits, dividends, credit accrued and always pay the boss first. As an aberration of The Golden Rule - those who have the gold, rule.   From this vantage point, it may very well be a long shot that we can actually change how we have run our affairs for so long. And yet, it clearly appears we are all quickly running out of time to make the necessary changes to save ourselves. Although the planet will surly survive, we may in fact have just used up it's ability to support us further.

Through my life's experiences and many years invested in personal healing and professional trainings, I strongly believe men must now develop our committed sense of responsibility to our higher life purpose. This new attitude and outlook supports and embraces all of life. We can no longer think just of ourselves and our individual interests first - we have to serve the wellness of those we are in relationship with. For us to all survive, men and those in power have to step up and show up for the higher and greater good of all concerned, especially the less materially advantaged and economically fortunate.  In order to effectively pull out of this collective nose dive, we will have to engineer throughout all the world, in nearly all levels of society, the huge overhauls required to restructure and then install the new operating systems that actually work on more personal, long term user friendly ways. Along with enormity of all this, on more inter-personal levels, in order to even begin making the shifts called for, we are all faced with healing the repressed and largely denied unconscious parts of ourselves, our Shadow.

This hidden and 'dark' aspect of our personal and collective psyches has perpetually acted out most disagreeably in our lives and throughout history. The ongoing effect of this largely denied part of our selves has helped create the extreme circumstances now impacting our planet. One of the primary intentions of Awakening The Sacred Masculine is to restore honor, respect and integrity amongst men and women alike. We do this in part, by consciously calling in the Sacred into ourselves and embodying the Divine in our lives. The Awakened Sacred Masculine is the embodiment of our Divine Lifeforce, consciously expressing through men and the masculine principle in women - it is the Christ Consciousness  reborn.

Interestingly enough, these are the same qualities associated with the Knight Code of the Round Table from the mythological Arthurian legends. Whether historically accurate, this version of the 'Hero" archetype still holds true for us now. The awakening of this evolved consciousness in men is the modern day version of the Holy Grail quest except now, the attainment of the Grail is the full embodiment and fulfillment our Sacred Masculine purpose. In this, there is a fundamental intention of being impeccable in our word, thoughts and actions. Simply put: we do what we say and say what we do.

The Awakened Sacred Masculine chooses to become totally accountable, first with himself and then in all the engagements and relationships in his life. In relationship, this is how trust is created and integrity maintained and what is sorely missing in many of us today. Just ask the women in our lives. The primary motivation of Awakening The Sacred Masculine is to fulfill a deeply held Spiritual Soul code or contract to evolve into the full, living embodiment of our essentially Divine natures, as humans and as men. As men, it is time to honor our sacred purpose by embodying the Awakened Sacred Masculine. This is the new direction in men's work and final frontier for us all. This however, is not gender specific, it is not limited to us anatomically designed men. Both men and women carry masculine and feminine qualities. We are all an unique combination of each. Although the masculine attributes are obviously more expressive in a man, the masculine principle has to evolve in women as well. In many respects, this point of view depersonalizes the 'us verses them' mentality, not just towards men but about men as well. The dark stigma long held and well earned slides off but not away and is in fact, shared within us all, men and women alike.

Over my life, I have observed men always fear most what we believe will destroy us. Not from outside of ourselves, but from within. A man bases his entire ego and personality projections around the unconscious belief that maybe he really is not good enough, strong enough, or powerful enough after all. All of our arrogance and braggadocio is a total cover up of our often huge emotional insecurity, personal doubt and deep self-loathing. Our egos are triggered by fear, so we often try to cover if not conquer our fears through domination and control. From this old paradigm way of thinking, might does make right and from our Shadow's point of view, is all that really matters.

Our Shadow self is made up from all the inner wounds that never healed within us as children and their residual energy only festers, growing more and more combustive, angry and resentful. All the crazy shit men do comes from this deep well of pain, often lined in anger. To awaken our Sacred Masculine awareness, we will have to travel through our personal  Shadowlands, a journey into and through all the places we unconsciously fear we can never make it through on our own. This is where all our most painful memories and all our inner child woundings live. Most of all, this is where our most caustic and critical self-judgments dwell.  As perhaps you can imagine, it takes great courage to finally face the very things that consistently frighten us and requires a Soul strong commitment to face and embrace the parts of ourselves we have desperately tried ignore and forever deny. After all, this is the definition of a true Hero - one who chooses to rise to the difficult occasion by pushing through his or her fear and considerable opposition to fight the good fight, save the day and hopefully, survive intact. In modern day terminology, this is the metaphoric and mythological Hero´s Quest of ancient Greek mythology.

For too long now, many men have gotten stuck and trapped in their lower natures, largely acting in self serving and egocentric abuse of power behaviors in overly controlling, assertive, and dominating ways. These attitudes and expressions all reflect our Shadow self. The unconscious Shadow drive of the masculine is the by product of age-long repressed and unprocessed anger, shame, blame, guilt and fear. As a result, the accumulated build-up and denial of our feelings and blocked emotional energy has created the overly abusive, self destructive behaviors we associate with the unawakened or unevolved masculine consciousness.

As men, these are the personal demons we always run from and as a result, relentlessly chase us. The truth is, our Shadow really does own us - until we own it. This evolutionary and alchemical transformation as explored and expressed in the Awakened Sacred Masculine only happens when we courageously challenge our deeply ingrained masculine belief systems by doing our personal growth homework. And for many of us, lots of it at that. However, there is a solution and a profoundly powerful secret in transforming our Shadow.  To do so, a man has to first come into his open Heartspace to access, embrace and completely empower his feminine nature. In fact (and how ironic is this) it is his feminine nature that will save him. Who knew?!? Only by creating a totally symbioltic interdependency with his complimentary aspects will he begin experiencing his completeness and emerge as a fully balanced and harmonious man.

From a historical perspective, the often adversarial and polarized relationship dynamics between men and women were caused by this lack of conscious integration in men. For there to be true and lasting harmony between men and women now, this split has to be healed in men. The fundamental responsibility for men and the final frontier for everyone today is to consciously attend to and transform our own Shadows that not only contain all of our woundedness but ironically enough, the vast wellsprings of our personal power as well.  Energetically speaking, the enormous amounts of unconscious effort it requires to suppress the huge stockpiles of repressed emotional energy long held in check, could be better utilized by us to be consciously productive, fulfilled and happy. If this were the case, we would all live in a wonderfully different world.

As men, we have to embrace and create an empowered interdependency between our apparent opposite or rather, complimentary natures to become truly healthy and whole. For us to come into balance and begin embodying our Awakened Sacred Masculine awareness, we have to create a bridge to not only access our feminine nature but  embrace and nurture this essential part of our whole self. This is one of the primary intentions of Awakening The Sacred Masculine because only by becoming whole, will we ever be at peace. As fully balanced men, we are impeccable with our word and Heart conscious in our actions.  This radical and essential shift in awareness requires men to get in touch with and utilize our more feminine qualities, those of compassion, forgiveness, receptivity and nurturing self-love. This will allow us to face, accept and embrace all of our self perceived weaknesses. All of the judgments against us, specifically by those we loved and trusted, our primary care givers, have left an indelible mark, a slight, a pain, an unhealed wound. This is all ripe material that needs to be loved back into our humanity, once and for all.

This is the real nitty gritty, deep trench work necessary to finally heal and transform all of our accumulated pain, self doubt, shame and regret. The irony is, this is where our personal power is hidden away. In the simplest of terms, we all have to heal our own pain. No one can do this for us. Paradoxically, we have to do it for ourselves, yet we can't do it alone.

We all need supportive communities in which to thrive and more to the point for us men, we really need our brothers to help do this work. As far as women are concerned, they sincerely need conscious men to begin showing up in their lives to exemplify and out-picture the Awakened Sacred Masculine to help heal their feminine wounds as well as help redefine their own awakened masculine natures.

As men, most important and above all else in our personal process of healing, we have to really forgive ourselves.The eternal elixir, salve and balm for our deepest sadness, pain and self doubts is always self-love. This begins to unwind the habitual projections and abusive attitudes and behaviors that are a dark outer expression of our Shadow. In time, this profoundly powerful and necessary act allows a man to forgive those in his life he's erroneously blamed for his own pain.

To effectively resolve and heal our Shadow and transform our reservoirs of accumulated anger, fear, pain and shame we have to learn to embrace it all in forgiveness, gratitude and self-love. Only when we learn to live in and through our open Heartspace will the ghosts of our past disappointments finally disappear. We do this by consciously opening our Heartspace through the healing power of forgiveness and in time, gratitude and learning to unconditionally love all parts of ourselves, no matter how dark, repulsive or nasty.

In short, we have to learn to live in and through our open Heartspace, once and for all. For us men, this is so huge! This Heart centered consciousness releases the hold our deep set emotional blockages and fear based belief systems and conditioning have had on us. In doing so, we will learn a whole new language, a dramatically different way of being men - with few usable role models, blueprints or roadway maps to guide us. We are in fact, making it up as we go, fumbling to grow along the sharp learning curves already set by women, all without the natural inclusive qualities of the sisterhood. As if fairly obvious, men have a long way to go to catch up to women, as far as the evolutionary learning curve is concerned.

To actually proactively evolve now and begin embodying the Awakened Sacred Masculine in our lives, we have to create and cultivate our own internal balance point and operate from this in our daily lives. In times of stress, uncertainty or insecurity, the Awakened Sacred Masculine has leaned to rely on his own connection to his Soul and has developed his internal guidance system to self-regulate and bring himself back into personal harmony.  

Our growth requires a fundamental shift in our consciousness to begin accessing our Soul's awareness of our higher, more refined spiritual natures. Unless we get our information primarily from our Higher Self, we are getting it from the outside world and this is clearly not so healthy. Unless we consciously connect with our Soul and all that this opens up to, we are greatly disconnected. Just looking around the world today, it would appear not so many people actually spend much time here.  By taking complete responsibility of our thoughts, emotions and actions knowing no one else has control over us to 'make' us act in any way we don't choose. In this way, we become the masters of our internal reality, where we  consciously respond to life from our center with a quiet confidence and calm self-assurance.

As we turn away from the external gratification drive which has habitually hounded us with our endless seeking of external approval, validation and love, we come to rest more easily in our Awakened Sacred Masculine consciousness. In time, all actions become direct expressions of our Spiritual alignment with our ego personality serving the higher will of our Soul's  purpose.

How do we do this? In part, by consciously attending to our most basic physical, emotional, mental and spiritual self-care needs and nurturing the parts of ourselves we have always needed, demanded and expected the world to take care of for us. Only then will the deep disappointment and resentment many men live with begin to transform. I believe the prevalent feelings of unfulfillment many of us feel is because somewhere deep inside we know we are not attending responsibility to our own basic needs as men.  We always end up feeling the world owes us the very things we are not giving ourselves.

When a man takes responsibility to identify, respect and honor his sacred purpose, he begins to live in his personal integrity and honor this quality in others. The endless cravings to satisfy his unfulfilled ego-self will finally cease and desist. This man becomes peaceful within and no longer struggles with himself or anything else in his world. Only then will he feel truly safe to the women in his life to express her more vulnerable, tender and Sacred qualities. A man who has embodied his Awakened Sacred Masculine invites a woman to finally rest and relax in his presence.
Can you imagine a world where most men are able to do this?

For more about Keith and to check out his other articles go to:
http://awakenthesacred.blogspot.com/

zeerak_flowers    Without darkness, there would be no light. Order is defined against the backdrop of chaos. Sometimes we think of opposites as being separate from one another. But how is it that they can be separate when they need each other to exist? Even space and form are one unified energy. In the world of form, we tend to only pay attention to that which is visible to the naked eye. And yet, form is simply the compaction of space, and space expanded form. Energy and form are inseparable.

All duality exists because we think it does. We form distinctions, gravitate toward one end of the spectrum over another, and begin to qualify things as ‘good’ or ‘bad’. And once we’ve internally classified experiences as good or bad, we become attached to the experiences that we can have. Attachment brings identification, and we lose sight of who we truly are. When  we forget our core essence we suffer.

Underlying the world of form, there exists a single, unified field of consciousness. It is timeless, eternal, whole, present, now. Consciousness is not based upon the polarizing vagaries of form. It has no opposition. It is the unnamable space of oneness from which all things arise. Consciousness is harmony, peace, it is immovable. And it is who we are.

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