Chris wrote:
>I had always felt that no one should be allowed to marry until they are at
>least 40...how can anyone pledge their life to another when they have only had
>a 'few years' of life experience?

Hi Chris.
This is what I find intriguing: 'pledge your life to another.'
How come? What for?
If the love is there, it is there; and if it is not, it is not.

I get that you can feel that in the moment, even two moments, but how can
you possibly say how you are going to truly feel in what we call the future.

I also get that in the moment you would like it to be that way, and you are
'pledged' to do everything you can to make it that way, but given that
everything is changing, every moment, and each of us are unique, how is it
possible to honestly make such a vow? Is it?

And even if it is so, how come the need for 'marriage.'
If it is so, then surely - no need to 'pledge.'

I see it as our restricted view of reality, and wanting reality to be the
way we would like it to be. And it isn't - by a long way.

Until... you are ready to be unconditionally with what is.
Then you are always fulfilled - in every moment. No exceptions.

Every little thing is delightful - cleaning your teeth. Everything. Equally.

When you are fulfilled, there is no need for another. (Or children.)
When you meet someone in the same state, and you connect,
pledges and marriages are totally redundant.
That is a real unconditionally loving connection.
When every single time you see, or even think of your beloved there is a
smile, and a rush of warm delightful energy. Lovely.

One day (and it is already so in what we call the future) we will all be
like that - with each other.

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Someone else wrote that they agreed with me about motherhood.
On the surface, and conventionally, it looks like going for life, but for
most it is more like an escape from the uncertainty of living free and in
the moment to moment uncertainty.

There is no substitute to freedom.
And, once you have got the knack, you can feel free anywhere and in any
circumstance. In fact, the more restricted you are, the more the opportunity
to find real freedom - within yourself.

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Happy freedoming...