Someone upset about Paul's last blog:  newrealities.com/index.php?option=com

Paul responds:
Woke up with this - at 1:00am...
So you are upset.
You say you are 'speaking for all mothers.'
Big assumption - especially as I know some mothers that not only agree, but
I have heard them say the same thing.

When they got married - in fact while they were walking down the isle, they
could feel their lives closing in on them. And when they had children they
felt their own life was over. From now on their lives were about looking
after their children (which often includes the husband) at least until the
children grew up. (No expectation that the husband would grow up)
Trouble is, by that time the will has usually diminished.

Of course there are exceptions, and, most parents 'live off' their children.
They make them the reason/excuse for living. And when the children have
grown they live off the grandchildren, and expect to be looked after by the
children. No lives of their own.
And their children then go through the same cycle.


Here's the thing. If you are upset it means that what has been stated is
something you do not want to hear, and you are feeling something you do not
want to feel. (Unless you are psychotic - in which case you are so cut off
from yourself you go cold - and you are someone "who is not safe to meet on
a dark night.")

If it was not true there would be no such feeling - for if it is not true,
what is the upset? Like the Jews shouting: "Anti Semitic."
If it is not true, why for the fuss!
If it damages your business - your reputation, sales of your CD's, the
amount of money you get offered for your next film, then quietly take them
to court - to invite them to prove it. No need, as they say, "to get your
knickers in a twist.'

You see if you are clear of the stated subject you will not react, contract,
get upset. If you are clear nothing will upset you - because there is
nothing to be upset.

If you do feel upset - then please thank the person for helping you to see
that part of yourself about which you are not yet clear. You have not yet
seen that part of yourself clearly enough to accept it, and thus neutralise
it. So say thank you.

Then, as they say in Italy: "Prego." In English: "Thank you."
And in Birmingham, England: "Think nothin' on it our kid."