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What question comes up - maybe the most, is relationships. Over and over.
Consider: There is no such such thing as a relationship.
The imagined idea of a relationship is based on time - and there isn't any.
Just this moment - relating.
What we do not realise is, that we do not realise how much we assume that
we are 'couples.' In even the slightest more advanced state of
consciousness couples are not natural. Our natural state is alone, or community.
Jealousy probable generates as much negativity and anger as anything else
on the planet. We just don't seem to be able/want to adjust - to be alone,
or sharing in a community. Extreme: Muslims.
And just what is the state of the average relationship? Not very pretty eh.
Check it out. Ask around. We are so conditioned that we do not even
consider that two people can live together without disruptive compromise.
(Adjustments, yes, but compromise eventually begets resentment.)
Just visualise those laughing, smiling, happy faces at the weddings -
and what takes place at the average divorce settlement.
(Of course it does not have to be that way - if we do not listen to
religious and other such toxic conditioning.)
When you get angry, resentful, complaining, jealous, do you actually
experience the phenomenon? Do you actually know what is happening?
Answer? - No. If you did, the phenomenon would dissolve.
Check it out - when you get riotously jealous, what are you actually
assuming? This person is 'yours'? You have exclusive right over this
person - because they made a (false) promise years ago? Have you not
changed? Have they not changed? Has not everything changed? And who gave
you the right? That piece of religious/government paper? Come on - wake up!
It is just your insecure ego.
What actually is the process. This?:
You 'fall in love'/your chemicals get infatuated/either this is 'the
perfect soul mate - or you give up looking.
You live together, you discover lots of things about the other you didn't
realise - because they/you can no longer be on best behaviour all the
time; you grow tired/used/bored - with the sex and each other; you have
met someone who is more exciting?
When you meet someone new to whom you are attracted you usually feel
excited; fresh; you have changed since the last time you were infatuated;
not encumbered with domestic practicalities; they/you are are on your best
behaviour; and lots of other things.
Imagine: Living in a smallish community. Not exclusive to other
communities, but in numbers where you know everyone. 100?
We are all open to each other. We do not have to identify which child
'belongs' to whom - because, first of all we cannot be sure who has
'fathered' the child, and because we consider all the children as family.
(Or even more advanced - we are in no need to divert our energies - thus
do not need children to distract us from the discomfort of the moment.)
What freedom eh. Free to love, share, look after the children. All one.
My brother Clive is a sort of a 'into seeing the future genius.'
He was one of the first to put a computer into a production line.
He tried 'Time Share' way before it caught on.
He saw the shape of modern cars before they happened, and designed a rail
transport system that would have solved most of our road congestion.
And so on.
His major thing is community. He has worked out intricate practical
details of how a community could work that would not only be fun, but very
No takers. Once again, he feels discouraged. As with all his other visions
- he is too early. (And being too early, it maybe too late.
We really don't have much time to change the way we are living.)
A community does not have to live on the same land - just close, each
person having a space where they can be alone if they feel to, and have a
communal area where everyone can be together for some of the time.
And no hierarchy! Everyone is equally responsible - for everything.
When you want it enough, and can see it, it is happening already.
But, are you ready to be that open - share, on every level - even on the
thought level? Until then - carry on compromising - as best you can.
Being so complete, being alone is not being alone,
or, a fun, adventurous, loving community.
You can do it. There are enough of you reading this that coming together
would make it happen - easy. Just disconnect with your present way of
living, and it will happen. It is just if you want it enough.
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