Something to consider?

Often - very often, when someone shares, they are not really there, and
they are not really talking to you,personally. It is as though they just
need to get it out. And the listener listens - so they can do the same
thing when the other has finished.

Often two main things happen in sharing - the person is falsely meek, and
complaining, or arrogant and indicating that they definitely know the way
it is.

If a person is not sharing from their in-the-moment experience, if you
check out your body, you will feel it. It is even more apparent if you
check out the story tellers body posture, facial expression, and tone of
voice.

Talking/writing in such a way is usually an addiction. Again, you can
check that out because the person gives lots and lots of irrelevant
details. Lots. And they are not really talking to you - they just want to
get their story out. It is an addiction, but because almost everyone does
it, it is not recognised as such.
The mind is like a vast fly-wheel - once it gets going it never stops -
even in sleep.

In a group, a man in the front row went into one of his usual mind rants.
I took my glass of water and threw the contents into his face.
Just for one very short fraction of a second his mind stopped. Wonderful.
With the mind stopped we got closer to the real him.

So when listening reading, check it out - what are your sensations - how
does your body respond.
We have millions and millions of books - lots of them empty of real wisdom.
Then we have the writings of Krishna Murti, Anthony de Mello, and others,
who were writing from their in-that-very-moment experience.
The rest is just neurotic spewing.


So check yourself out. Just giving advice? or are you actually
experiencing,
for yourself, in that very moment, what you are attempting to share.
If not, it is just entertainment for you, and an escape from the moment
for the other.